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Update on ME

June 27th, 2014 at 05:22 am

Continuing to get things done in the process of getting divorced.

-Opened my own checking
-Opened my own savings in town
-Opened my own ING Savings
-Helped DH open his ING Savings
-Closed HSBC Savings into ING Savings
-Opened my own Discover Card
-Potential roommate came and looked at the house and will be getting back to me on if/when she can move in, she needs to talk to her current roommates to figure this out.
-Appraisal came in on house so now just waiting for the closing date for the house to be done

Definitely getting things moving. Things with X have not been going great. I have been seeing a guy friend I knew 10 yrs ago who randomly came back into my life. I wasn't expecting this, but he is a great relief right now to have someone to talk to. He has also been divorced and has been giving me a lot of advice and guidance on dealing with things and also been nice to have someone to make me laugh and smile. X is less then thrilled with this....understandable....but YOU are the one that wanted the divorce so what did you think was going to happen?? Well, anyways I wanted to check in with everyone on how I am doing. Been super busy but doing alright and things are moving in the right direction.

9 Responses to “Update on ME”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Glad to hear you have some support and things are moving forward. Did your X get his things out of your house?

  2. Rachael777 Says:

    Amazing job of pulling it all together. keep it up and hang in there for the tough times. Smile

  3. snafu Says:

    Tthanks for the update sounds like positive moves forward. Im guessing X visualized a different scenario when he elected to leave. Lots of money from a buy-out, no one to comment on his alcoholism, no house/yard maintenance duties, drop by on whim for you to gratefully shower him with attention, call at 11 pm suggesting you drive over because he's bored, nasty texts/nasty words designed to build up his self esteem and trample your abilities. Topic to gossip with friends as a 3 hitter... justify his boorish behaviour, drink, gunny sack & blame you. Meanwhile, in his vision, you remain crushed waiting for...wait for it...he'll call just to insult you further. I doubt it would enter his mind that you would seek a roomie to share expenses. Continue to go to baseball, meet friends, socialize, decline his calls or move on.

    Oops no damsel in distress, you've managed the tasks, cleaned the fridge, deep freeze, hot tub and more. Al Anon and prepping for next sale and I'm ever hopeful to see 'lawyer' consultation pop up soon.

  4. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    Good work! Congrats on moving forward.

  5. Banker Gurl Says:

    Thanks all! I do feel proud of my progress thus far.

    Snafu - He has 99% of his stuff out. It's more of finding things as I am cleaning that are his or he should be taking. Then I box them up and put them by the door so they are out of here asap. This weekend is very busy but will have him pick them up next week.

  6. Another Reader Says:

    Good job!

    Careful on getting involved again before the divorce is finalized. Also, have a close look at this guy's history and why he is divorced. You don't want another abusive alcoholic to trample your self-esteem that you have worked so hard to build.

  7. Amber Says:

    Good for you, and glad to hear you have some support

  8. Looking Forward Says:

    I am glad you have a supportive friend. Just be careful people don't get the wrong idea.

  9. Joanne Says:

    Glad that things are going better for you. You deserve to be happy. Take care of yourself.

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