My blog hit 1 Million Hits today! COOL! Thanks everyone for reading and commenting!!
Mini update on me in response to a Q on my last post.
We are waiting for paper work to be finalized for the divorce, I haven't actually filed it yet as we are waiting for the house to be done so we can accuratley record the amounts in the different accounts for XH and I. House closes in 2 days, hoping to file the papers the first week of August, then just waiting on the courts. I have essentially been "alone" for 10 months now....been feeling "alone" for over 2 years before that...and DH moved out 3 months ago. I still feel a lot of sadness for everything lost, but I am finding out that happiness is out there for me, I don't have to feel sad, lonely and depressed...my happiness needs to be a priority now as I never made it one before, and I am not going to let anyone else's perceived "time line" of how long I should grieve this relationship effect me. I am ready to be happy NOW!
Also got 5 missed calls in a row and a drunk VM from XH last night.....so it's not too hard to move on anymore when he clearly still doesn't care to get help for his drinking. I am afraid he is going to be alone forever as an alcoholic who can't have children is not a big selling point when looking for a date....but you can't help someone that won't help themselves, and I can't be in charge of him and his problems anymore. I need to look out for myself and my well being, he only brings me down. I have learned a lot from Al Anon, and BF is a wonderful help in healing as he also had a divorce where he felt alone for years and understands what it is like.
One Million Hits!!
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July 30th, 2014 at 03:54 am 1406688848
Mean, old me visualizes August as prime to tie up old, loose ends, quietly marked DONE. All X stuff out, memorabilia of the past 7 years boxed & into secondary storage, the possession of all keys and garage door openers, changes to health care ins., house and car insurance holiday plans, update side bar, all bills paid up-to-date. Review & adjust legal documents like Will, Advance Directive, and durable power of attorney [POA}
Hope you understand these random thoughts are meant to protect you
July 30th, 2014 at 03:58 am 1406689120
change designated beneficiary life insurance, 401K, ROTH. Open accounts in your name, double check joint CC, bank a/cs, loans, legal documents are up to date and correct.
July 30th, 2014 at 02:40 pm 1406727632
And thanks Snafu - I can use your response as a start to my checklist! I have gotten many things changed/updated, but many left to do. Still feels quite overwhelming, but getting them done, one by one.
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I am sorry to hear about your loneliness and divorce. At least now, you will be free to find your own happiness out there.