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New Years Resolutions Update

January 21st, 2015 at 09:52 pm

I am doing good on my New Years Resolutions. I am completely off of pop and am down 7lbs (hoping to be down 10 by end of month). I do have a few cans of Coke left in my fridge (I think 3) and I am ok with leaving those in there in case I want an occasional one or if BF wants them. But I am not buying anymore for home or for work and have been having water if we go out for dinner.

I have been selling tons on FB (over $600 in the last 2 weeks). Recently my Mom and I decided to pool our purchases and sales, so for new purchases we each pay half and then we split the profit. This works good since she is retired so she can go shopping during the day and find deals at the "right place/time" on clearance and such and I do most of the selling as I am quicker with the computer and also have a huge clientele in BFs town, so the $600 will be split for the most part other then a few items I sold tht I had before we decided to do joint purchases.

I am deciding if I want to put these sales towards the mortgage or in savings. My savings is over $26K right now, but I like to keep it at/above $25K and I have my property tax bill ($2300) to be paid by 2/15/15, a trip to Nevada in the beginning of March ($2200), and a surprise trip (BF won't tell me where he is taking me) in June (he is covering all travel and lodging, but I am sure I will need $$ for shopping, food, etc.). So I would like to have a cushion above the $25K to cover these upcoming expenses and keep me over $25K. Of course I will also have my tax return coming soon (got my W2 today) so that should be a nice bump as well, but a little nervous since this is my first time filing single in 7 years.

Still no roomate, but I continue to put the word out. My basement is clean and ready for a renter. Since I still haven't gotten one by word of mouth I really need to take pics and put some feelers out to my FB friends.

One of my other resolutions was to be positive and let go of the past. I still get sad on a daily basis (sometimes for 10 seconds, sometime intermittently all day) over my divorce. I just feel in shock, disbelief...who was that person, how could I be with them for 12 years and not know they weren't in it for life? In the last 3 weeks I feel I have been doing much better at seeing things where they are now. I just focus on the FACT that I can not change the past. Thinking about it over and over again, dwelling, thinking "what if" don't change a thing. So I focus on the positives of where I am now. One thing that I found very comforting is that when I was married I ALWAYS had some big problem (XH's infertility and refusal to discuss it, cheating, alcoholism)that was stuck in my head so I could never feel relaxed or content, it was always "what can I do to fix this, how can I make this better?". And my mind was never at ease with where I was in life. Now my mind can rest. I know even though I will sometimes feels sad for the past, I am in a MUCH better place now. I sometime even feel confused why I don't have a big problem to think about...lol. I also noticed that my nails are growing better, my hair has thickened and a small skin ailment that I had for about 3 years just cleared up all on it's own after XH left......hmmmmmm....lol. Also BF is great and has helped the healing process more then I could ever explain on showing me there are stand-up guys out there.

Overall very happy with my progress in 3 weeks on the resolutions. Will keep moving forward on weight loss, savings going up, debt going down, and being a happy, healthy, productive member of this life!

6 Responses to “New Years Resolutions Update ”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    So happy for you that things are so much better!

  2. Amber Says:

    Wow 7lbs? That is awesome.
    Way to go on the sales and good luck with the roommate search

  3. LuckyRobin Says:

    Yes, I've noticed quite a difference in your blog posts since you filed for the divorce, and then again when you met your new boyfriend. You are positive and happy, though you have little moments. It comes through. It is good to see you so mostly happy.

  4. VS_ozgirl Says:

    It's really nice to see someone bounce back even stronger after going through something really rough, keep up the positivity, you sound like you have a lot of really great things going for you Smile

  5. CB in the City Says:

    I'll join the others in saying I'm proud of how you've handled your divorce and have kept your spirits buoyant. It's natural to have sad moments, but they will become more and more infrequent.

  6. Banker Gurl Says:

    Thanks everyone, appreciate your support so much! Smile

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